Let us take the example of a sick man who is attended by two of his servants. They tend him, serving food and medicine at the proper time, and look to all his comforts. But one of them is greatly perplexed and upset by his serious illness, while the other is quite composed and steady. Which of the two shall, in your opinion, be rendering better service to the patient? I think you will definitely say that the one with a steady and composed mind will be more helpful to him than the other, although both of them are serving him honestly with a heart full of love. So must it be with you in case of your household difficulties, the solution of which can be better arrived at when you are calm and composed.
– Taken from the book “Complete Works of Ram Chandra, Vol. 2 (2nd Indian edn., 1999)”, Chapter “Clarifications”, pg. 112, by Babuji Maharaj